tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post7555200017345397005..comments2024-01-13T19:31:57.599-08:00Comments on Cave Mother: What Makes a Difficult Baby?Cave Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08489375502067939290noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-87048559578547473822023-06-06T21:09:03.481-07:002023-06-06T21:09:03.481-07:00I enjoyeed reading your postI enjoyeed reading your postPopsicle Recipeshttps://www.makepopsicles.com/popsicles/cookies_and_cream_popsicles_13802481677.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-78142741888811685922009-08-24T06:41:36.694-07:002009-08-24T06:41:36.694-07:00This post so could have been written by me! lol. M...This post so could have been written by me! lol. My daughter was 'difficult' too and hence we found attachment parenting. So so glad we did! I wouldn't have it any other way now. She's still tricky - she's a 'highly sensitice child' - but I am now confident that we're doing the best for her - cosleeping, still breastfeeding (at 2.5 yrs), parenting her gently etc.<br />Love your blog, and thank you for your comment on mine. :)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522140630879522066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-90647874776163214232009-08-08T09:03:37.444-07:002009-08-08T09:03:37.444-07:00A good friend of mine had her baby with her from d...A good friend of mine had her baby with her from day 1, lots of breastfeeding, co-sleeping, the works, and yet her son never slept alone. EVER. And rarely for more than a few minutes at a time. For well over a year. <br /><br />Family and friends thought she was just a young mother who was exaggerating, but she wasn't. He literally wouldn't sleep if he wasn't with his mother and would only cat nap. <br /><br />He's 9 now and rambunctious and lovely and wicked smart and has a great relationship with his mother, because even though he wrung her out a thousand ways she never called him difficult, never said anything but, "I guess this is what my baby needs." <br /><br />She said to me just the other day, "I don't think attachment parenting makes a difference, it's just all hard wiring and temperment" and she an AP advocate. My response was, imagine what he would have been like if you hadn't done all that!<br /><br />(As a side note, they waited EIGHT years to try for another because they weren't up for another no-sleep-baby hahah Turns out #2 is a dreamy and very sleepy baby haha)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10920104559343925583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-86361105778765004842009-08-07T04:41:43.072-07:002009-08-07T04:41:43.072-07:00Hey thanks for ALL these comments - I loe them all...Hey thanks for ALL these comments - I loe them all. I agree that we are (kind of) lucky to have these "challenging" babies who open our eyes to so much. If I had not been so "challenged" I would have missed out on so much learning. I love babywearing and to think I wouldn't have done that if Cave Baby hadn't needed it to stop her crying. And I have become so passionate about breastfeeding and more gentle, baby-friendly ways to parent. <br /><br />Joe, you are right - I owe it to my baby for teaching me how she wanted to be treated.<br /><br />Liz - I have really enjoyed the book, and I did get it on your recommendation!Cave Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08489375502067939290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-1812807110146701492009-08-06T18:30:13.080-07:002009-08-06T18:30:13.080-07:00I love this post. Perspective is so true of anythi...I love this post. Perspective is so true of anything in life, especially when dealing with our children. My difficult baby is growing into a wild and wonderful, demanding little man. But he's also the most polite, thoughtful, tender, wacky almost-three-year-old who loves ginger candies, herbs straight from the garden, and just about any vegetable you put in front of him (a bowl of wilted greens are his favorite). He's also the only pre-schooler I know who pretends to be David Bowie and can sing all the words to Queen's We Will Rock You. He is definitely a survivor--with damn good taste if I do say so myself. We with the challenging ones...We're the lucky mamas!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04167412850616073440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-15851162168667955492009-08-06T15:18:43.936-07:002009-08-06T15:18:43.936-07:00Thank you for this post. I had one of "those&...Thank you for this post. I had one of "those" babies too, and I do think that their being labelled "difficult" does come from our culture, with high expectation on independence and "easy" babies. As soon as you stop fighting them, and start working with them, it all becomes a whole lot easier.<br /><br />I also wish I knew then some of the things I know now - I would have also kept her in the sling all day and been more proactive on the co-sleeping. But I remind myself that the reason why I know more now is precisely because I have DD - I would have not had the platform to look into some of these things without her. I guess this is what they mean when they say our children teach us so much :DJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819186851118873730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-23370284646397498122009-08-06T12:33:57.087-07:002009-08-06T12:33:57.087-07:00Like you, I so wish I'd have known about sling...Like you, I so wish I'd have known about slings and co-sleeping before the baby came. This time, my sling is in my hospital bag (4 weeks to go!) and the midwives are well aware of my intentions to co-sleep, and respect my decision as an educated woman,allgrownuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558724767417950811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-64007831406151461612009-08-06T10:17:00.563-07:002009-08-06T10:17:00.563-07:00I'm glad you're enjoying Meredith Small, I...I'm glad you're enjoying Meredith Small, I thought you would! I also had a 'challenging' baby, although I still found her a challenge even though we did do all the attachment stuff from the beginning, but I also found that bit in the book about the survival of more challenging babies really encouraging.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354606225242312518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7000103105398415784.post-89890878553384105022009-08-06T07:30:13.271-07:002009-08-06T07:30:13.271-07:00I like the word 'challenging'! All babies ...I like the word 'challenging'! All babies have 'easy' and 'difficult' traits, it's how we perceive and cope with them that is the main thing. Although I know that's very difficult when you have a baby who won't sleep, I've been there!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10754562741952800845noreply@blogger.com