Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Time, Or Lack Of It

Gosh, I don't know how all these so-called mummy bloggers find the time to post several times a week, especially those with more than one child. As Cave Baby gets older (13 months and counting) things don't feel like they are getting any easier, and my free time seems to be in shorter and shorter supply. Her naps get ever shorter and her night-time sleep shows no sign of improving. When she is awake she wants to practice walking ALL THE TIME. I can forget about doing anything on the computer when she is around unless I want more of the keys to break following one of her keyboard mashing sessions (only the equals has succumbed so far). And what with my "other projects", not least the preparation for imminent bathroom refurbishment, this blog has been way down my order of priorities.

But in lieu of a proper post, may I encourage you to click on The Feminist Breeders article on breast vs formula. It is just the kind of rant I would be too scared to write. She is a brave blogger with real integrity.

12 comments:

Lisa - edenwild said...

I used to wonder this myself, until I discovered that I had a very real need to write. I write when he naps, or when my husband watches him. Sometimes I stay up late and miss out on sleep to do it (though I try not to make a habit of this). As for everything else, I just try to be more efficient! And when need be, I leave things undone, including my writing. I know some moms who can't spend ANY time on the computer. I think it depends on how important the writing is and how pressing other needs are.

allgrownup said...

thanks for this link, loved it x

Betsy B. Honest said...

no idea how they do it, but a thoughtful, well-researched, and well-written post does take more time.

TheFeministBreeder said...

Yeah, that was just about the sweetest thing EVAR! Thank you! And your commentors are golden too!

My secret is this: I only write after my kids go to bed (and they're both asleep by 8 pm... don't hate me for that.) I'm also a massive insomniac so when I can't sleep I stay up writing. My final secret is that (and my husband is so angrily jealous of this) I write really fast. I've written entire 10-page research papers the same day they are due, and gotten perfect scores. My trick is that I write most of it in my head before I ever sit down in front of a computer, and because I have a good memory for this, I'm able to throw things together pretty quickly when I do finally have time to type.

I dunno... that's all I got. *shrug* ;)

Lisa - edenwild said...

So I just read that post you linked to. Brilliant.

Earthenwitch said...

Yup - I wonder this too. Meh - just write when you can. And I feel your pain on the desire for constant walking - the tiny daughter is just the same.

global mama said...

I can really relate to what you are saying but I have just recently decided to make my writing happen as much as I can and this means writing when my bub sleeps during the day. This could be anything between 30 mins to 2 hours and then again in the evening (if i am not too tired)..
Everything else just has to wait now during that time, as writing really helps me stay connected to myself. Being a mum and a woman who loves to write, I think I am now learning how to find the spaces in my day and how to use them well...

Becks said...

I always wonder the same when I read the many well written blogs, or the blogs of talented crafty mamas. The only time I get to post a picture or two is at ridiculous am in between nightnursing new baby and awaiting the wakening of non-sleeping older child. In fact it is only because baby is sleeping and the boys are playing knock and run on their big sisters door, that I am even reading this!!
Now going to close my ears for a few more minutes and read the links.
xx

Hobo Mama said...

I keep wondering that, too! It seems that, like all of life, it's a matter of making choices, which means leaving something else out. I constantly wonder how "normal" people live, because I never seem to have enough time for everything I believe normal people do: parent, clean the house, write thank-you notes promptly, run errands efficiently, volunteer, do hobbies, socialize, etc. My mother somehow managed it all (it seemed), and worked out of the home besides. Is it magic? Did it not get passed down to me? And I wonder with my own blog about the balance between quantity and quality, too -- better to update frequently with fluffier things, or save my energy for the big ones? (It takes me forever to write a real post.) Anyway, I appreciate your writing when you have the time, and the links when you don't!

Cave Mother said...

Hobomama - your concerns sound identical to mine. And the more I manage to fit in, the higher I raise my expectations of what I should be able to do. So, n other words, it is a no win situation.

Jessica said...

Yep, the key is work when he sleeps, don't sweat the small stuff (thank you notes, sweeping, etc.) and don't force anything.

I keep coming back to read your blog not because I expect anything from you, but because I feel a connection with you and no matter how frequently (or infrequently) you write will affect that.

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